A favorite Christmas tradition growing up was going caroling all through town with my church. The best part was begging my dad (the pastor, and thus by default the proverbial caroling director) to sing Jingle Bells as often as possible, then fighting with my friend Dan over who got to shake the sleigh bells in time.
For some reason my Dad liked to throw "It Came Upon a Midnight Clear" into the rotation, and it always caught the rest of us totally off guard. People knew the song all the way up to the word "clear" and then started very rapidly tapering off giving confused looks to one another while halfway humming or mouthing the word watermelon, but my Dad was determined and just kept belting out every single one of those obscure lyrics until the bitter end of the 4th stanza while the carolers just listened and the homeowner stood at the door totally puzzled and slightly concerned. My sister and I shrugged and giggled.
Ever since, it's been near the very bottom of my personal Greatest Hits of Christmas list. But I turned to the first devotional in this year's family advent guide, and goshdarnit there it was, starting things off with a bang, just like my determined Dad. If there's one way to make sure your kids don't want to do Advent Devotionals, I'd put my money on starting with a rousing rendition of It Came Upon a Midnight Clear. (Better to start with Jingle Bells.)
Still, giving the benefit of the doubt, I read the words. And though they are dense and old-fashioned and a little tough to chew through on first pass, with the same amount of tenacity Dad always needed to carry the choir through, I stuck with it and found them in the end to be vividly poetic, robust, and right on time. Still not the song I would choose (sorry Dad), but with something valuable to say nonetheless. See what you think:
It came upon the midnight clear,
That glorious song of old,
From angels bending near the earth,
To touch their harps of gold:
"Peace on the earth, goodwill to men
From heavens all gracious King!"
The world in solemn stillness lay
To hear the angels sing.
Still through the cloven skies they come,
With peaceful wings unfurled;
And still their heavenly music floats
O'er all the weary world:
Above its sad and lowly plains
They bend on hovering wing,
And ever o'er its Babel sounds
The blessed angels sing.
O ye beneath life's crushing load,
Whose forms are bending low,
Who toil along the climbing way
With painful steps and slow;
Look now, for glad and golden hours
Come swiftly on the wing;
Oh rest beside the weary road
And hear the angels sing.
For lo! the days are hastening on,
By prophets seen of old,
When with the ever-circling years
Shall come the time foretold,
When the new heaven and earth shall own
The Prince of Peace, their King,
And the whole world send back the song
Which now the angels sing.
I don't have to tell you our world is a mess. Maybe it's Facebook, maybe it's Fake News. Maybe it's the President, maybe it's his opponents, or maybe it's just us getting older and being more aware of what's happening around us, worrying about our kids, worrying about the future. I don't know. You know what I'm talking about, though. Whether it's on a Global scale, or a National scale, or just in the individual everyday lives of my coworkers, my family, my friends, my neighbors...things look and things feel darker and heavier and more chaotic than ever.
I don't think things were much better back then, two millennia ago. Sure, the world was smaller and life was slower, which probably helped in a lot of ways, but life and its humans were every bit as dysfunctional. Always have been.
And because of it all, and despite it all, and into it all, God entered. He moved into the neighborhood, stared its darkness in the face.
It Came Across a Midnight Clear speaks of the bold proclamation of Peace that the Angels sang into a dark world that needed it desperately.
In the second stanza, it calls our modern world weary, which I would say is an appropriate descriptor for today. But that same song of Peace continues on, it asserts, even though it is being drown out by "Babel sounds" -- sounds of making a name for ourselves, sounds of arrogance and pride, division and selfishness, conflict and strife. (Gen 11)
In the third stanza, it speaks more personally to those of us who feel "low," who "toil" beneath "life's crushing load" with "painful and slow steps." It invites us, exhorts us, to "rest" and to "hear." To listen for the song again. To be reminded of the beautiful sound of the cosmic fulfillment of God's glorious promise that started at Christmas.
In the fourth stanza, it fixes our gaze where it should be, to our eternal hope in this present age of waiting, when the whole world will finally join the angels in the same song, at last acknowledging the Prince of Peace in a way that will right every wrong once and for all.
The song's not a bad way to start Advent 2018 after all.
I've been thinking of Advent as an act of rebellion against a season and culture that screams to distract us. This carol is begging you to do the same. Not just to rebel against the consumerist mania that reigns between Black Friday and Christmas Eve, but also against the endlessly troubling news cycle and the divisiveness and cynicism that so easily comes with it all year round, against life's crushing load.
If you are feeling the effects that load, if you are feeling that you toil through life with slow and painful steps...do not succumb to the insanity and its despair, but rather take time, make time, fight for time to listen and remember, to "rest beside the weary road and hear the angels sing."
They are still singing: "Glory to God in the Highest! And on Earth, Peace among those with whom He is pleased!" (Luke 2:14)
He who has ears, let him hear!
We look not to the things that are seen, but to the things that are unseen! For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal. (2 Cor 4:16-18)
At the name of Jesus every knee will bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. (Phil 2:9-11)
In other words, Advent tells us there is still, despite it all, hope for Peace. That sounds foolishly simple and naive, but that is what the Christian tenaciously believes. It looks a lot like a man going all in on soloing four stanzas of an obscure Christmas carol while the rest of the world sings Jingle Bells. So be it. Hear the angels sing, then join in, sing on, don't stop.
Thursday, November 29, 2018
Sunday, August 20, 2017
Sunday Morning Thoughts
We go to a church that, despite some diversity, is White enough that we don't feel pressed to comment or find a response to these current events in a public way. We are white and yes "privileged" enough that most of us are able to ignore what's happening or just dismiss it as "noise" from the media.
So this left me wondering this morning what our response should be. What does the gospel say about white supremacy, racism, and hate? What does the gospel say in response to last weekend and the events that will surely continue? Does it say anything????
Because if there is something to say, let us say it.
Here's my best shot. This is what swirled in my head on the drive to church:
1. The good news of the Gospel is bad news for Nazis: God revealed himself as a Jewish man. Jesus was part of a marginalized minority; he quickly became a political refugee and grew up to be a homeless outlier hated by the Elite. He was a man of sorrows, acquainted with suffering and grief.
2. Acts 14:17 speaks of God's common grace to all people saying "He did good by giving you rains from heaven and fruitful seasons, satisfying your hearts with food and gladness." For those of us who enjoy what is referred to in modern times as "privilege," in a twist of cosmic irony, we owe this common grace we enjoy to a homeless Jewish refugee.
3. A follower of Christ does not need to take on these same identities (minority, refugee, homeless, outcast, outlier, etc.), but he or she does need to be humble enough to admit the need, accept salvation, and submit to the Lordship that comes from such an unlikely source.
4. God freely offers his salvation to every race, tribe, tongue, nation, people group, with no reservations. God has from the very start challenged his people to look outside of and cross these earthly barriers and identities to extend grace to others and to find reconciliation, unity, and new familial bonds in Him. There is no room for xenophobia or racism for the Christian, as it goes against the very nature of God.
5. God has a particular affection for the poor, persecuted, outcast and oppressed. These are "the least of these." He promises to be near to them and Jesus calls them blessed.
6. His followers, then, are called to listen to, stand with, support, encourage, help, defend, and love anyone in this category. When we do so, it is as if we were doing it with and to and for and from Christ himself.
7. Mr. Obama quotes Mr. Mandela saying kids don't have hate in their hearts and they instead are taught to hate. The grain of truth in this quote is that hate is surely taught and modeled and reinforced through generations, but the inescapable human problem is that we are in fact born with hate in our hearts. Only the gospel contains the promise to replace these hearts, break these bonds, and liberate us to love.
8. Lamenting the hate in someone else's heart starts with confessing the hate in my own.
9. God in his strange sovereign wisdom tolerates evil in the present day, but promises to one day destroy the oppressors of the world. Justice will be served. The earth groans in expectation, and we join in to do the same. The lamenting cry of "How long Lord?!" is a holy one, as we wait for his retribution. We wait, but there is hope.
10. In the mean time, as we wait, we do what we can, in our part, to foster justice and peace and love and forgiveness, little by little, day by day. We look outward, we speak up, we help out, we cultivate truth, we stand firm.
11. Maybe this is hardest: without excusing evil, we are called to love and forgive enemies, to bless those who curse us. No one is outside the scope of the God's grace and the forgiveness he offers. Transformation is possible.
Tuesday, November 03, 2015
The Spiritual Discipline of Learning Something New
Our university president explained one time how he challenged himself to pick up a new hobby and learn something new every year or so. That year he was learning how to program and play an electronic drum set and he gave a demonstration in chapel one day.
I liked the idea, in part because it was funny to see such a stately older man discovering electronic drums, but perhaps mostly because my range of interests is wide and my attention span short, and so doing something of the sort would allow me to dabble while keeping pressure low, until my collection of hobbies would resemble my collection of instruments that I don't really know how to play.
But then life happens, and things like busyness and stress and a desire for ease and comfort squash such trivial aspirations. If you can't seem to find the time for hobbies, what makes you think you can find time for new hobbies? Not to mention learning takes effort, and effort takes energy, and energy is a limited resource.
In September I decided to go for it. I started saxophone lessons. My wife gave me a needed solid nudge in the right direction, and then as if he knew I would need it even the professor took the initiative and suggested a meeting time instead of waiting for my call. There was no escaping: good thing.
OK so it's not exactly learning something new. But after 15 years (!) of collecting dust it might as well be. It's moreso an attempt to finish what was started, and sometimes that's just as hard, and the process is proving to be just as valuable. I've been thinking that learning something new is a strange sort of spiritual discipline.
Perhaps it's as simple as any discipline being spiritual discipline. The forcing of oneself to do something that doesn't come naturally, there is something deeply spiritual about that. Progressing on the saxophone is at its most basic a matter of finding time, making time, or just taking the time to practice, an activity that is both laborious and boring, a tiring drudgery. And yet, this banality and the discipline required to carry it out are the only means to reach the much more enjoyable and interesting end. It's a striving, an ongoing fight, and that sounds familiar.
When I arrive early to my lesson I hear the professor -- a member of the national orchestra in Versailles -- practicing a few things himself. Or, there are the moments where he plays the piece I'm working on "just to give me an idea." He sounds like a warm silver knife melting through butter, and though I'm no squawking rookie, next to him I am convinced my saxophone sounds something like a hedge trimmer piped through a bullhorn. To make matters worse, I'm trying, he's not. It's work for me and play for him. Do I let his effortless example demoralize me and give up? Or will I let it inspire me and press on? I suppose others might be wired differently, but I know my instincts and in these moments I've got to fight them off. Will I choose pessimism or optimism? Or to put it more spiritually, cynicism or hope?
No matter what the new hobby might be, an inherent humility comes into play. You'll be forced to admit that you know nothing, and you'll be pushed to ask for help. You will have to admit a need. In the case of getting that help from a teacher, coach, or mentor, you'll expose yourself to endless criticism, even if it is constructive, and a submission to their authoritative experience will be required.
I've had my student model saxophone for 25 years and it was bought used. The first question I got was "What kind of sax you playing?" and the quick response was, "Never heard of it. And after so long it's going to need a tune up." But in all those countless critiques -- flat notes, uneven volume, clacking keys -- I'm waiting for him to blame my instrument as a convenient scapegoat. There have even been times I've sheepishly suggested it. But no, apparently the problem is still me, and that's a healthy humble pill to swallow at every turn.
As we get older it becomes increasingly natural to pursue the path of least resistance and remain inside the safety of what we know and what we've mastered. Within our comfort zones, we can pick and choose what we pursue in order to minimize embarrassment and thus reinforce our pride. It's a question of control, and it can be a relatively cozy place to live. But in the Christian life we are called to live by faith, existing in a place of trust, being pushed outward into unknowns, called to weakness so that the Spirit's power might be revealed. This is harder for some of us than others, and these are muscles to be developed in the spiritual discipline of learning something new.
My saxophone case still has a bunch of embarrassing stickers from all the Christian ska, punk, and hardcore bands I listened to last time I played. No respectable saxophonist listens seriously to punk and he wouldn't dare to tarnish a sax case in such a way. To make matters worse, these bands aren't even known, many would say they aren't even good! I hesitated for a moment and almost ripped them all off before my first lesson, then decided to let it go, to own it as a piece of my history. The prof sees them, the smugs at the music conservatory glibly grin at them, I even paraded all over Paris with them when I went to the instrument repair shop (where I noticed nothing but clean black cases on the shelves). Or there was the time the prof asked me what saxophonists I listen to. I knew he wasn't asking about ska bands so I named the first I could think of and had trouble naming a second. I did, but when I got home I looked it up to find he was actually a piano player. He rattled off names and I confessed my ignorance to his surprise. He wrote them down for me to discover them in my own time.
The point is, there will be many moments in learning something new where you'll risk looking stupid and feeling foolish. This is a spiritual experience, for the Christian believes a truth that is foolishness to onlookers. For those of us afraid of humiliation and attempting to maintain a certain image, the Christian life will be inherently difficult. I suppose it's the continual question of basing your identity on what others think of you versus on the security found in what Christ has done for you.
And then, there's wonder. It happens as I walk out of my lessons, or when I left the saxophone shop in Paris: I feel like a saxophonist again, a title I flippantly cast aside at the turn of the century. Since then I've picked up the bass, but have never been a bassist; I've picked up the accordion, but have definitely never been an accordionist, and the list could go on. In those moments, I've had the flashback more than once of opening my new saxophone for the first time and the age of 9 in the family living room. It was shiny, complex, heavy, half my size, and it was mine, and there was a new world to discover. It's good to get that back again, a wondrous homecoming of sorts.
In these experiences, horizons are opened to new dimensions. And each time we learn something new about the world we learn something new about its Creator.
I'd much prefer either sticking to what I know or dabbling in something that comes easily and looks good. Neither are good or realistic options. The other option is at times messy, embarrassing, painful, or tiring. The spiritual parallels are many. The payoff is worth it.
I liked the idea, in part because it was funny to see such a stately older man discovering electronic drums, but perhaps mostly because my range of interests is wide and my attention span short, and so doing something of the sort would allow me to dabble while keeping pressure low, until my collection of hobbies would resemble my collection of instruments that I don't really know how to play.
But then life happens, and things like busyness and stress and a desire for ease and comfort squash such trivial aspirations. If you can't seem to find the time for hobbies, what makes you think you can find time for new hobbies? Not to mention learning takes effort, and effort takes energy, and energy is a limited resource.
In September I decided to go for it. I started saxophone lessons. My wife gave me a needed solid nudge in the right direction, and then as if he knew I would need it even the professor took the initiative and suggested a meeting time instead of waiting for my call. There was no escaping: good thing.
OK so it's not exactly learning something new. But after 15 years (!) of collecting dust it might as well be. It's moreso an attempt to finish what was started, and sometimes that's just as hard, and the process is proving to be just as valuable. I've been thinking that learning something new is a strange sort of spiritual discipline.
Perhaps it's as simple as any discipline being spiritual discipline. The forcing of oneself to do something that doesn't come naturally, there is something deeply spiritual about that. Progressing on the saxophone is at its most basic a matter of finding time, making time, or just taking the time to practice, an activity that is both laborious and boring, a tiring drudgery. And yet, this banality and the discipline required to carry it out are the only means to reach the much more enjoyable and interesting end. It's a striving, an ongoing fight, and that sounds familiar.
When I arrive early to my lesson I hear the professor -- a member of the national orchestra in Versailles -- practicing a few things himself. Or, there are the moments where he plays the piece I'm working on "just to give me an idea." He sounds like a warm silver knife melting through butter, and though I'm no squawking rookie, next to him I am convinced my saxophone sounds something like a hedge trimmer piped through a bullhorn. To make matters worse, I'm trying, he's not. It's work for me and play for him. Do I let his effortless example demoralize me and give up? Or will I let it inspire me and press on? I suppose others might be wired differently, but I know my instincts and in these moments I've got to fight them off. Will I choose pessimism or optimism? Or to put it more spiritually, cynicism or hope?
No matter what the new hobby might be, an inherent humility comes into play. You'll be forced to admit that you know nothing, and you'll be pushed to ask for help. You will have to admit a need. In the case of getting that help from a teacher, coach, or mentor, you'll expose yourself to endless criticism, even if it is constructive, and a submission to their authoritative experience will be required.
I've had my student model saxophone for 25 years and it was bought used. The first question I got was "What kind of sax you playing?" and the quick response was, "Never heard of it. And after so long it's going to need a tune up." But in all those countless critiques -- flat notes, uneven volume, clacking keys -- I'm waiting for him to blame my instrument as a convenient scapegoat. There have even been times I've sheepishly suggested it. But no, apparently the problem is still me, and that's a healthy humble pill to swallow at every turn.
As we get older it becomes increasingly natural to pursue the path of least resistance and remain inside the safety of what we know and what we've mastered. Within our comfort zones, we can pick and choose what we pursue in order to minimize embarrassment and thus reinforce our pride. It's a question of control, and it can be a relatively cozy place to live. But in the Christian life we are called to live by faith, existing in a place of trust, being pushed outward into unknowns, called to weakness so that the Spirit's power might be revealed. This is harder for some of us than others, and these are muscles to be developed in the spiritual discipline of learning something new.
My saxophone case still has a bunch of embarrassing stickers from all the Christian ska, punk, and hardcore bands I listened to last time I played. No respectable saxophonist listens seriously to punk and he wouldn't dare to tarnish a sax case in such a way. To make matters worse, these bands aren't even known, many would say they aren't even good! I hesitated for a moment and almost ripped them all off before my first lesson, then decided to let it go, to own it as a piece of my history. The prof sees them, the smugs at the music conservatory glibly grin at them, I even paraded all over Paris with them when I went to the instrument repair shop (where I noticed nothing but clean black cases on the shelves). Or there was the time the prof asked me what saxophonists I listen to. I knew he wasn't asking about ska bands so I named the first I could think of and had trouble naming a second. I did, but when I got home I looked it up to find he was actually a piano player. He rattled off names and I confessed my ignorance to his surprise. He wrote them down for me to discover them in my own time.
The point is, there will be many moments in learning something new where you'll risk looking stupid and feeling foolish. This is a spiritual experience, for the Christian believes a truth that is foolishness to onlookers. For those of us afraid of humiliation and attempting to maintain a certain image, the Christian life will be inherently difficult. I suppose it's the continual question of basing your identity on what others think of you versus on the security found in what Christ has done for you.
And then, there's wonder. It happens as I walk out of my lessons, or when I left the saxophone shop in Paris: I feel like a saxophonist again, a title I flippantly cast aside at the turn of the century. Since then I've picked up the bass, but have never been a bassist; I've picked up the accordion, but have definitely never been an accordionist, and the list could go on. In those moments, I've had the flashback more than once of opening my new saxophone for the first time and the age of 9 in the family living room. It was shiny, complex, heavy, half my size, and it was mine, and there was a new world to discover. It's good to get that back again, a wondrous homecoming of sorts.
In these experiences, horizons are opened to new dimensions. And each time we learn something new about the world we learn something new about its Creator.
I'd much prefer either sticking to what I know or dabbling in something that comes easily and looks good. Neither are good or realistic options. The other option is at times messy, embarrassing, painful, or tiring. The spiritual parallels are many. The payoff is worth it.
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Mix Tape: Doubts at the end of the world
The kid and I recently finished reading The Voyage of the Dawn Treader a tale of sea adventures that lead to the very end of the world. It's a surprising tale of courage, especially surprising when the most courageous of all is a tenacious and volatile mouse who will do whatever necessary to uphold his vows of honor.
In this song, Kristian Matsson of The Tallest Man on Earth walks to the end of the world in Sagres, looks across the ocean, and upon hearing harrowing tales, decides to walk away from the beckoning adventure. Reepicheep would be disappointed. But then again, so is Matsson.
The first time I heard it, I labeled the song as bland and uninspired, but it has only continued to grow on me since then. In a progression of just six chords Matsson sets up a profound wistfulness and restlessness, a tension that seems to be lurking under the surface in many of us. It's not that it's uninspired, but rather that the songs evenness serves to communicate a persistent malaise, a pervading numbness. What is left of us? he asks. The song doesn't exactly build, but it does lead to a definitive climax where the music stops and he mutters the tired answer into the microphone: it's just all this doubt.
In Dawn Treader Aslan reminds Lucy of a lesson she's already been taught: nobody is ever told what would have happened. But, he reassures her, anyone can find out what will happen.
This is a song for those who lament not knowing what would have happened, those who regret knowing what could have happened, and those reluctant to find out what will happen.
And the unknowns of the ocean just keep calling us all the same: there's only one thing left to do.
What's brilliantly paradoxical about the progression is that it could also just as easily serve as a soundtrack for sailing across the open waters, holding out a hope of freedom for those still stuck wrestling with doubt.
"Your way was through the sea." Psalm 77:19
In this song, Kristian Matsson of The Tallest Man on Earth walks to the end of the world in Sagres, looks across the ocean, and upon hearing harrowing tales, decides to walk away from the beckoning adventure. Reepicheep would be disappointed. But then again, so is Matsson.
The first time I heard it, I labeled the song as bland and uninspired, but it has only continued to grow on me since then. In a progression of just six chords Matsson sets up a profound wistfulness and restlessness, a tension that seems to be lurking under the surface in many of us. It's not that it's uninspired, but rather that the songs evenness serves to communicate a persistent malaise, a pervading numbness. What is left of us? he asks. The song doesn't exactly build, but it does lead to a definitive climax where the music stops and he mutters the tired answer into the microphone: it's just all this doubt.
In Dawn Treader Aslan reminds Lucy of a lesson she's already been taught: nobody is ever told what would have happened. But, he reassures her, anyone can find out what will happen.
This is a song for those who lament not knowing what would have happened, those who regret knowing what could have happened, and those reluctant to find out what will happen.
And the unknowns of the ocean just keep calling us all the same: there's only one thing left to do.
What's brilliantly paradoxical about the progression is that it could also just as easily serve as a soundtrack for sailing across the open waters, holding out a hope of freedom for those still stuck wrestling with doubt.
"Your way was through the sea." Psalm 77:19
Friday, October 02, 2015
The Hymnal of DMST
I've always listened to much of Sigur Ros as a window to heaven, meaning I consider their work to some degree heavenly music in the true sense of the word, otherworldly at least, in some way reflecting a glorious grandeur that we'll one day know.
Well, I finally solved the problem of the absence of a record player in this house, and I am slowly but surely rediscovering my vinyl collection. Yesterday I got to Do Make Say Think's You, You're a History in Rust. And if I hear Sigur Ros as heaven, I hear this as hymns.
There is something not only transcendent but also inherently corporate about their music, and the songs come together in a way that not only expresses the full range of emotions loud and clear, but also as if one instrument is proclaiming to another. The songs are all at once declaration and dialogue. There's a vertical dimension and a horizontal dimension. At times reflective and restrained, other times ardent and jubilant. Improvised and spontaneous, deliberate and calculated. All this is what makes good hymnody.
It is particularly the series of tracks "A With Living," "The Universe!," and "A Tender History in Rust" that inspires this tribute.
The other week in the metro I stood next to a man with a Do Make Say Think t shirt. He looked just as nerdy as me. I fought the impulse to hug him.
Well, I finally solved the problem of the absence of a record player in this house, and I am slowly but surely rediscovering my vinyl collection. Yesterday I got to Do Make Say Think's You, You're a History in Rust. And if I hear Sigur Ros as heaven, I hear this as hymns.
There is something not only transcendent but also inherently corporate about their music, and the songs come together in a way that not only expresses the full range of emotions loud and clear, but also as if one instrument is proclaiming to another. The songs are all at once declaration and dialogue. There's a vertical dimension and a horizontal dimension. At times reflective and restrained, other times ardent and jubilant. Improvised and spontaneous, deliberate and calculated. All this is what makes good hymnody.
It is particularly the series of tracks "A With Living," "The Universe!," and "A Tender History in Rust" that inspires this tribute.
The other week in the metro I stood next to a man with a Do Make Say Think t shirt. He looked just as nerdy as me. I fought the impulse to hug him.
Tuesday, September 29, 2015
Who's sneakier
The other kid is quite a collector. His primary obsession is bottle caps, but it pretty much includes anything small, shiny, not shiny, unusual, or ordinary, almost always dirty and laying in cracks of sidewalks, including corks, soda tabs, seashells, rocks, capucine seeds, hazelnuts, acorns, berries, flowers, etc.
Today he came home extremely proud of his prize marron, a type of chestnut. "Papa, guess what I found at school today" was the first thing out of his mouth to greet me, quickly revealing what he was hiding behind his back without giving me time to respond.
"Was your teacher proud of you for finding it?" I asked.
"No, she didn't see it, I hid it in my pocket, because if she would have seen it, she would take it," he said dramatically.
"Ah, you're sneaky."
"Yeah, but she's sneaky, because she's really good at finding our marrons and stealing them."
Today he came home extremely proud of his prize marron, a type of chestnut. "Papa, guess what I found at school today" was the first thing out of his mouth to greet me, quickly revealing what he was hiding behind his back without giving me time to respond.
"Was your teacher proud of you for finding it?" I asked.
"No, she didn't see it, I hid it in my pocket, because if she would have seen it, she would take it," he said dramatically.
"Ah, you're sneaky."
"Yeah, but she's sneaky, because she's really good at finding our marrons and stealing them."
Sunday, September 13, 2015
Hope in Disorientation
We saw Sufjan Stevens last week. Though it was not quite the performance I expected or hoped for, it was a uniquely strong communal experience, and more impressive than the songs, compositions, or light-show themselves was the way the collective breath of 2,700 people was held, the wind knocked out of us, our stomach in knots. This was more than attending a funeral, this was sitting in silence for the week following, like the friends of grieving Job. No one spoke a word, for they saw that his suffering was very great. It was unexpectedly intense, living loss together.
This performance by Sandra McCracken strikes me the same way, an expression of loss and disorientation, and it's not difficult to enter into it and live it with her, evident that she's singng from experience. The only difference is a resolute hope, a tenacity that yearns toward the light that surely exists at the end of the tunnel, and that important difference is certainly a tad healthier than the few passing references offered us on Carrie and Lowell.
To be honest, feeling lost has been a recurring and overwhelming theme over the course of the past 4+ years. Many have looked at me as if they don't understand and don't care to understand, but one man listened carefully, lived it with me a bit, and asked me to read Psalm 43:3 to see if it spoke to the feeling.
Send out your light and your truth;
let them lead me;
let them bring me to your holy hill
and to your dwelling!
It was basically the first time I paid attention to the verse. It's become an anthem since, and in the past few months so has this song, as it captures fully the essence of weary waiting and orients me again in the one and only direction I know is worth heading.
This performance by Sandra McCracken strikes me the same way, an expression of loss and disorientation, and it's not difficult to enter into it and live it with her, evident that she's singng from experience. The only difference is a resolute hope, a tenacity that yearns toward the light that surely exists at the end of the tunnel, and that important difference is certainly a tad healthier than the few passing references offered us on Carrie and Lowell.
To be honest, feeling lost has been a recurring and overwhelming theme over the course of the past 4+ years. Many have looked at me as if they don't understand and don't care to understand, but one man listened carefully, lived it with me a bit, and asked me to read Psalm 43:3 to see if it spoke to the feeling.
Send out your light and your truth;
let them lead me;
let them bring me to your holy hill
and to your dwelling!
It was basically the first time I paid attention to the verse. It's become an anthem since, and in the past few months so has this song, as it captures fully the essence of weary waiting and orients me again in the one and only direction I know is worth heading.
Friday, September 11, 2015
Little maman
There are plenty of things fascinating and adorable about the girl tirelessly taking care of her three baby dolls. Like the way she immediately agreed the third should be named Gladys, and consequently explained to her repeatedly, "Yername, Gladys."
But most fascinating and most adorable is the way she whispers to herself small words of reassuring self coaching like every French parent does as she tends to their every need : allez, hop, tac, and voilà.
But most fascinating and most adorable is the way she whispers to herself small words of reassuring self coaching like every French parent does as she tends to their every need : allez, hop, tac, and voilà.
Friday, September 04, 2015
On Consolation
It was early Monday morning when I definitively learned I would help a friend bury his dad the next day. They didn't know exactly what they wanted, but they wanted an homme d'église saying something, anything as they lowered him down. Ils avaient raison. Because saying goodbye to a dad with no one speaking truth by our sides is desperately hopeless indeed.
It was another one of those out of body twilight zone moments, as if I'm watching a film of an unlikely story. How did this kid from Pennsylvania end up in a bourgeois home outside of Paris to help lay to rest a man he doesn't know? Ce cheminement avec Dieu est drôlement étonnant, I wrote to a friend. Don't ask questions, count it as the extreme honor that it is.
At midnight the evening prior, I was led to write about the privilege it was to share these moments with this family I did not know. That I was not there to make their grief disappear, but I was there to share it with them, live it with them. And that reminded me of our God who promises the same. I read words declaring who our God is, that he is close to the broken-hearted, that he is merciful, compassionate, full of goodness, an ever-present help. Then I read words of our Jesus, sent to do the same. A man who had a habit of suffering, as it's put in French, a man who sympathizes with our weakness, a man who understands and is ready to share it all by our sides. A man who promises rest for our weary and heavy-laiden souls. A man who wept before the grave of his good friend, because he loved him, because he was overwhelmed with sadness, because he was revolted by death.
We don't have a God distant and indifferent, but a God who understands and shares and enters into pain with us. This is shocking. This is unlike anything we know in this earthly experience. This should surpass our understanding. What king is like this?
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort...
He is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. He is the source of mercy and comfort. And what do we human beings need more in this life than mercy and comfort? We who recoil at hardened dictators, demanding bosses, exigent teachers, we look to this King ready to sit at our side as we sob uncontrollably and know he must be good, he must be true, he must be what we've been seeking all this time.
...who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
And if he consoles us -- and he does -- he does it not just for our own well-being, but so that we can extend this consolation to others when our turn arises. He wants us and expects us and nudges us to pass it on. And here we see the overflowing fountain of generosity that comes from the heart of God: spilling over and onward and outward, using awkward and weak vessels to get the job done.
But don't miss what's implied. If we're passing on consolation that came from God, that means we very likely received God's consolation from someone. The first person you called who dropped everything and came to sit with you, it was not just a friend, it was God himself. The friends that pulled themselves together to order flowers and make you meals, that was more than friends, that was God himself. The person who didn't try to cheer you up, but sat and cried in silence with you, that was the Father of mercies and God of all comfort. And it also implies that if we are not opening ourselves up in vulnerability to allow others to comfort us, if we are hiding our grief or doing it alone, we are resisting the consolation that God offers.
And now I realize what exactly was going on in my presence at the graveside. It resembles only moreso an unlikely story, and all the more an honor.
Bref, consolation comes.
Don’t back down, concentrate on seeing
The breakers in the bar, the neighbor’s greeting
My brother had a daughter
The beauty that she brings, illumination
It was another one of those out of body twilight zone moments, as if I'm watching a film of an unlikely story. How did this kid from Pennsylvania end up in a bourgeois home outside of Paris to help lay to rest a man he doesn't know? Ce cheminement avec Dieu est drôlement étonnant, I wrote to a friend. Don't ask questions, count it as the extreme honor that it is.
At midnight the evening prior, I was led to write about the privilege it was to share these moments with this family I did not know. That I was not there to make their grief disappear, but I was there to share it with them, live it with them. And that reminded me of our God who promises the same. I read words declaring who our God is, that he is close to the broken-hearted, that he is merciful, compassionate, full of goodness, an ever-present help. Then I read words of our Jesus, sent to do the same. A man who had a habit of suffering, as it's put in French, a man who sympathizes with our weakness, a man who understands and is ready to share it all by our sides. A man who promises rest for our weary and heavy-laiden souls. A man who wept before the grave of his good friend, because he loved him, because he was overwhelmed with sadness, because he was revolted by death.
We don't have a God distant and indifferent, but a God who understands and shares and enters into pain with us. This is shocking. This is unlike anything we know in this earthly experience. This should surpass our understanding. What king is like this?
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort...
He is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. He is the source of mercy and comfort. And what do we human beings need more in this life than mercy and comfort? We who recoil at hardened dictators, demanding bosses, exigent teachers, we look to this King ready to sit at our side as we sob uncontrollably and know he must be good, he must be true, he must be what we've been seeking all this time.
...who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
And if he consoles us -- and he does -- he does it not just for our own well-being, but so that we can extend this consolation to others when our turn arises. He wants us and expects us and nudges us to pass it on. And here we see the overflowing fountain of generosity that comes from the heart of God: spilling over and onward and outward, using awkward and weak vessels to get the job done.
But don't miss what's implied. If we're passing on consolation that came from God, that means we very likely received God's consolation from someone. The first person you called who dropped everything and came to sit with you, it was not just a friend, it was God himself. The friends that pulled themselves together to order flowers and make you meals, that was more than friends, that was God himself. The person who didn't try to cheer you up, but sat and cried in silence with you, that was the Father of mercies and God of all comfort. And it also implies that if we are not opening ourselves up in vulnerability to allow others to comfort us, if we are hiding our grief or doing it alone, we are resisting the consolation that God offers.
And now I realize what exactly was going on in my presence at the graveside. It resembles only moreso an unlikely story, and all the more an honor.
Bref, consolation comes.
Don’t back down, concentrate on seeing
The breakers in the bar, the neighbor’s greeting
My brother had a daughter
The beauty that she brings, illumination
Tuesday, August 04, 2015
An analysis of pebble beaches in a list of pros and cons
1) no sand castles
2) kills your feet after a while
3) get pelted when waves crash in
4) kids are constantly throwing rocks into the water...in the direction of swimmers' heads
Pros:
1) does not enter your car or travel home with you in all of your belongings
2) kids are not tempted to eat it
3) the sea water makes them magnificently smooth and round and they glisten like gems when they're wet
4) when the water moves out and drops them they make a mesmerizing sound like shaking a sack of marbles
5) makes for a surprisingly comfortable bed
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